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By hissychick | April 20, 2010
Gazing into my smudgy with fingerprints crystal ball I foresee some difficult questions being asked of me by misses E and I in the not too distant future (of course it’s a given with miss A but that’s another story).
I am not talking about the usual sex/death/meaning of life suspects. Although of course I dread those, it is the following two questions I fear the most:
“Mummy, why are there so many baby photos of miss A and not me?”
“Why don’t you have a record of all of my milestones?”
And of course if they are particularly savvy:
“Why didn’t you blog about me?”
Ugh.
You used to be able to explain away the lack of photos pre the digital age with the whole limited film excuse and if pressed the truthful albeit pissweak lack of time.
(And when it comes to not having a three day old professional pic of E, the lack of a photographer at the hospital on the day).
So what is it then?
When it comes to the milestones business, I have a baby book with miss A’s milestones carfeully recorded therein. Miss E’s milestones were detailed in my blog.
And when it comes to miss I…well let’s just say that we only found out that she had started rolling front to back when miss A casually told us that she’d been doing it for a few days. She often plays with her sister on the gymini mat as I undertake dog knows what other chores I am forever dealing with right now (probably the never ending freaking washing). Even now I can only hazily tell you that that was about two or three weeks ago.
Yes there is a lack of time factor. Looking after three kidlets is surprisingly time consuming and resource intensive, especially during periods of illness like Immyjim’s resolving bout of bronchiolitis last week (see I just proved my point, reasonably serious illness and two hospital visits and no detailed blog post!).
Yes it is because I am seriously knackered, said illnesses, frequent night feeding and miss E’s inability to sleep through ever are taking their toll (and you think you have it hard first time around- HA!!)
However…sometimes I wonder if part of the reason is that the whole babyhood gig is not novel anymore, and that you take it a little more for granted. And that freaks me big time. The ungratefulness of it all, the future regret at not being able to confidently tell each daughter exactly when she crawled, uttered her first words, nor what her favourite foods or storybooks were.
You know what though? I’m not sure it’s really that either. By releasing myself from the pressure of having to record each milestone I have been able to experience the joy of sometimes being fully present in the moment, able to savour the individuality of my girls and simply go with the flow of their emergence as the unique little people that they are.
When I am not being a grumpy tired naggy mc nag nag chore whore that is (curse you, evil bitch, I won’t let you win!).
I am blessed with three beautiful, intelligent and mostly healthy kidlets. So if you don’t hear from me as often I hope it’s because I am too busy appreciating that fact. And not just when one is at school, one is at daycare and the other is asleep.
Topics: I'm a Mum, Uncategorized, words and lack thereof | 3 Comments »
Meh- if it wasn’t for time and date stamping on digital photos I would have no idea.
At least you have an excuse for not diarising the milestones- I don’t even know who is who in the baby photos! LOL
Posted by: Simone on April 28th, 2010 at 11:16 amLOL….well, I still say its the novelty of having kids wanes when the 2nd comes….and of course the time factor….
Ann’s last blog post..Starting the celebration early
Posted by: Ann on May 3rd, 2010 at 5:01 pmI wanted to add (but pressed Submit instead)….”but yes…enjoy the moment and don’t get caught up in snapping a chot for the blog or trying to remember every detail so that you can write it down later!”
(smiles)
Now I can Submit Comment
Ann’s last blog post..Starting the celebration early
Posted by: Ann on May 3rd, 2010 at 5:04 pm